Sharing your story online isn’t for the weak hearted. It’s time consuming, tiresome, and yet it’s also rewarding.
I’ve been a content creator for nearly a year now. I started on Instagram then expanded to TikTok & this blog. I considered joining other platforms such as Twitter & Facebook to expand my reach, but ultimately decided not to because I want to live my life.
Here are three reasons I believe using content creation to build a presence online can be toxic:
You have to make sacrifices. You can’t have it all. As a stay at home mom & content creator, i constantly feel like I have to sacrifice either my time with my children or my time to sleep in order to create enough content to stay relevant.
I aim to post at least one reel & three TikToks everyday. I also try to post one blog a week-though I’d like to post more.
To post one reel everyday, I batch make 7 videos on Saturday & Sunday. But most of them remain in my draft folder because I don’t think that they’re good enough (I’m working on changing this belief).
Everyone isn’t kind. Part of me wishes that we lived in a world full of bliss, but the realist in me knows that world would suck. In order to enjoy my highs, I must experience my lows. And as a content creator, I have a lot of lows.
If you’re going to share your story online, you need to be mentally prepared to deal with the people who aren’t going to like you. Once you go viral & your account starts growing, you’ll have to make a choice:
Do you want to ignore the hateful comments that you receive or do you want to respond to them?
I’m currently dealing with this issue. I want to be a safe space but I also want to destigmatize the topics that I discuss. I believe that I can achieve both of these if I focus on educating those I disagree with, instead of arguing with them.
Lastly, you really get to know yourself. If you’re suppressing parts of yourself, they’ll resurface while you’re creating content. And if you’re prepared to accept those parts of you, your mental health will take a hit.
At first, I enjoyed creating for self-reflection purposes. At the end of each day, I journaled on social media. Soon, I rediscovered the woman I lost in motherhood.
Shortly after I happily reconnected with my past self, my traumas started to surface. I was not at all prepared to revisit past traumas because I was already battling postpartum rage in the present.
Healing from the pains that I’ve hidden for what feels like most of my life has been very difficult, but I’m happy it happened because I’m stronger & healthier because of it.
Being a content creator is far from easy. It puts you in a position where you have to choose to either define yourself by the opinions of your followers or be strong enough to believe in your perception of yourself.
If you’re just starting out as a content creator, don’t let this post scare you. I highly recommend creating content online because of how therapeutic it can be.
If you think reading negative comments would be too much for you, make your profile private or turn off the comments on your posts.
Do what works for you.
How do you protect yourself online? Let me know in the comments.
Thank you for being here. I genuinely appreciate your presence.