3 Reasons Content Creators Struggle Mentally

Sharing your story online isn’t for the weak hearted. It’s time consuming, tiresome, and yet it’s also rewarding.

I’ve been a content creator for nearly a year now. I started on Instagram then expanded to TikTok & this blog. I considered joining other platforms such as Twitter & Facebook to expand my reach, but ultimately decided not to because I want to live my life.

Here are three reasons I believe using content creation to build a presence online can be toxic:

You have to make sacrifices. You can’t have it all. As a stay at home mom & content creator, i constantly feel like I have to sacrifice either my time with my children or my time to sleep in order to create enough content to stay relevant.

I aim to post at least one reel & three TikToks everyday. I also try to post one blog a week-though I’d like to post more.

To post one reel everyday, I batch make 7 videos on Saturday & Sunday. But most of them remain in my draft folder because I don’t think that they’re good enough (I’m working on changing this belief).

Everyone isn’t kind. Part of me wishes that we lived in a world full of bliss, but the realist in me knows that world would suck. In order to enjoy my highs, I must experience my lows. And as a content creator, I have a lot of lows.

If you’re going to share your story online, you need to be mentally prepared to deal with the people who aren’t going to like you. Once you go viral & your account starts growing, you’ll have to make a choice:

Do you want to ignore the hateful comments that you receive or do you want to respond to them?

I’m currently dealing with this issue. I want to be a safe space but I also want to destigmatize the topics that I discuss. I believe that I can achieve both of these if I focus on educating those I disagree with, instead of arguing with them.

Lastly, you really get to know yourself. If you’re suppressing parts of yourself, they’ll resurface while you’re creating content. And if you’re prepared to accept those parts of you, your mental health will take a hit.

At first, I enjoyed creating for self-reflection purposes. At the end of each day, I journaled on social media. Soon, I rediscovered the woman I lost in motherhood.

Shortly after I happily reconnected with my past self, my traumas started to surface. I was not at all prepared to revisit past traumas because I was already battling postpartum rage in the present.

Healing from the pains that I’ve hidden for what feels like most of my life has been very difficult, but I’m happy it happened because I’m stronger & healthier because of it.

Closing

Being a content creator is far from easy. It puts you in a position where you have to choose to either define yourself by the opinions of your followers or be strong enough to believe in your perception of yourself.

If you’re just starting out as a content creator, don’t let this post scare you. I highly recommend creating content online because of how therapeutic it can be.

If you think reading negative comments would be too much for you, make your profile private or turn off the comments on your posts.

Do what works for you.

How do you protect yourself online? Let me know in the comments.

Thank you for being here. I genuinely appreciate your presence.

🤙🏼🤙🏼

Katlan

Journal 3: The results of bullying: I Finally Accepted that I don’t have to be the “cool kid” at the young age of 27- I’m 27, right?

Mary Jane has done it again. I’ve had yet another construct altering epiphany that guided on the path to a state of healing 🙌

I’ve been lying online

I didn’t create my image online to best serve the motherhood community. I did it to make money.

I want to become an influencer so that I can live out my dreams, not because I want to create a great life for my children.

And I say this because if I truly wanted to give my children the best life possible, I solely focus on love. If you had been a fly on a wall during the last 8 months of our lives, you would have noticed that love was always a priority.

For months I’ve put what felt like all of my energy into building a platform online. Need proof? Come visit my house.

It is a COMPLETE mess and my parenting is too.

I want to continue writing because I don’t feel like this post is finished, but I’m going to stop here so that I can start living my truth.

**perhaps I’ll finish it tomorrow.

**^ look I’m already living a lie 😂

Social Media Helped me Rediscover Myself

This one is for the mothers who believe that they have to hide parts of themselves online in order to successfully build a strong following to achieve their goal of becoming a mom influencer.

When I first re-joined Instagram, after spending nearly a year away from it, I created an account to make mom friends.

When I type this, I am not lying. I literally only have one friend. She lives an hour away and doesn’t have kids so sometimes we struggle to connect.

I was insanely lonely so I dove deep into the mom blog realm of Instagram in search of online friends who can relate to what I’m going through.

At first, I was really happy that I was making connections. I quickly noticed that many moms are actually making a living online and decided that I wanted to do the same.

I put my MA Communications to work. I used what I learned to build a brand that others could relate to. I also studied top mom influencers to learn how they built their communities.

Unfortunately, while trying to build a following, I lost myself even more. Instead of focusing on my voice, I created content that I thought others wanted to see, but don’t get it twisted.

Creating content to attract others does not imply that I was being inauthentic. I completely support every piece of content that I’ve shared. I’m not saying that I lied. I’m saying that I didn’t include important parts of myself in my presence online in fear that it would prevent me from becoming an influencer.

So, How did Social Media Help Me Find Myself?

While attempting to empower the mothers in my community, I simultaneously empowered myself. Every time I shared a post, I felt closer to the woman I used to be. And overtime my content shifted. I went from being a stay at home mom who discusses postpartum to being a stay at home queen who’s open about being a bisexual wife and cannabis mom.

I’ve spent most of my time on Instagram, but TikTok is the main reason I shifted my mindset. I love Instagram as a platform, but I feel that the motherhood community on Instagram isn’t as genuine as the motherhood community on TikTok is. Though many moms on Instagram claim that their main goal is to normalize motherhood, I argue that their main goal is to generate an income.

I’m not trashing moms who make money on Instagram. Heck, I want to be one of them. However, I am trashing moms who pretend to be something that they’re not in order to make a profit. And yes, that does imply that I’m somewhat trashing myself.

Again, I never lied, but at one point my end goal was to make money and because of that I wasn’t authentically me.

Why Should You Believe Me?

Check my record. I REALLY want to delete my old content on Instagram, but I’m not going to because it’s apart of my journey. If you start from the my first post, you’ll notice the shift.

Where do we go From Here?

We keep moving forward. We continue to strive to change the narrative for not only what a good mom looks like but also for what happiness looks like. “Life is not a one size fits all” states Linda Fruits, the OG Queen of normalization.

And she’s 100% right. Your life is not supposed to look exactly like my life. The only character trait that we absolutely need to have in common is happiness.

So, figure out what makes you happy and go for it!

Thank you for reading my post. Leave me a comment so that I know you were here! I genuinely want to connect with you & I value what you want to say.

xoxo,

#stayathomebiqueen

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